talked to a lady while doing massage for her this afternoon in hospis...
she has had cartilage cancer and had been told by the doctor that she can only live for two months after her last check which revealed the presence of cancer cells in her bone...
after going through chemotherapy for once, she has suffered so much that she doesn't want to do it anymore. she would rather die than have to go through the pain again.
yes, she said those word exactly, she would rather die.
she was saying she doesnt want to become a burden to her family, as she couldnt move without the help of other now, that's why she thought of leaving, bring an end to all these.
but she has 2 young children aging 7 and 10 years old..
she is a very nice lady, she listened while people talks, pay attention..
but she wasn't this nice before she was diagnosed with cancer.
today she was telling me,she didnt believe in volunteers before this, given that she was a businesswoman and was always surrounded by people who were only concern about what benefits that can be gotten from you, she never believe those volunteers are sincere in helping the other, she knew there is something behind the smiling face, she thought she knew there are intentions behind those helping hands.
but after coming to hospis for few times, she had came to know that that's not the way, we dont want anything back, we only hope to bring comfort and love to those who are in need, it's true, try it out, find out how a smile or simply a touch can warm up those cold heart..
i told her about mr.oh, i told her how people get adapted to their situation slowly, how pepople change the arrangement n setting in their home to make things easier for those diasbled, how disabled people can live like normal people, how they can minimize the need for other to help out, bla bla bla. and of coz i hav to share the story of my most respected teacher mr.oh kim leng.
she listened to me, there were just so much to tell that i kept talking n talking, all she did was listen n listen..until wai mum came in as it was bingo time.
so we wheeled her to the activity room, we were talking in the tv room.
so we had a lot fun for bingo session as there was this new patient, uncle george, he was so bersemangat to atleast win a prize home, LMAO, ended up Tan Loy alone won 3 prizes, haha, super lucky =D
she didnt join in for bingo game, she left just awhile after we started our bingo game, before she went home, she told me something that makes me realise how helpless and miniature humans are infront of God. she said she is not someone whose future is to be fore-seen, she was grateful that i shared my story about mr.oh with her but at the same time she thought mr.oh's case and hers are two very different one. in her saying, mr.oh can see into his future, and make a decision that he wants to be something more than just a disabled, but she cant see into her future as she got no future.she was given 2 months time, and today isn't counted as one day in the 2 month's time anymore, today is a BONUS.in short, she thinks that she got no future.
p/s: she has got a lot of regrets, a lot which she wish that she did try out, but she knows in heart, all she has left is NOW, not to mention the future, and the past is not important anymore.
you know how much i wish to persuade her to do her chemo again? but i never did, because i know that i didnt go through what they've gone through, who are we to tell them life is more important, that they should put away the fear to chemo and look at life as life promises more than just the pain? we do not know, we are not sure, and we know everyone makes their own decision.
what am i trying to say? lol , i dont know =.= haih...
met a new volunteer today =D chai heng i think? very pretty girl and she's fun =)
u noe how u meet someone and u feel like u've defintely seen her somewher somehow? haha, she looks so so so familiar to me but we both know it would be impossible that we have met before, she was from pj but now staying in puchong and guess what? she is driving nissan sunny too !! =D hahahaha...veyr nice girl who has always been mistaken as "dai ka je" in the school =)
hmmmmm, that's all i think ? see ya soon =D
till then,
candy =)